The sedona Method

The following explanation and process will give you a small taste of what the Sedona Method can do for you. Remember, this is just a sample. For you to get maximum benefit and sustained results, we highly recommend that you work with our audio program and/or attend one of our seminars.

There are three ways to approach the process of releasing, and they all lead to the same result: liberating your natural ability to let go of any unwanted emotion on the spot, and allowing some of the suppressed energy in your subconscious to dissipate. The first way is by choosing to let go of the unwanted feeling. The second way is to welcome the feeling, to allow the emotion just to be. The third way is to dive into the very core of the emotion.

A simple exercise

Let me explain by asking you to participate in a simple exercise. Pick up a pen, a pencil, or some small object that you would be willing to drop without giving it a second thought. Now, hold it in front of you and really grip it tightly. Pretend this is one of your limiting feelings and that your hand represents your gut or your consciousness. If you held the object long enough, this would start to feel uncomfortable yet familiar.

Now, open your hand and roll the object around in it. Notice that you are the one holding on to it; it is not attached to your hand. The same is true with your feelings, too. Your feelings are as attached to you as this object is attached to your hand.

We hold on to our feelings and forget that we are holding on to them. It’s even in our language. When we feel angry or sad, we don’t usually say, “I feel angry,” or, “I feel sad.” We say, “I am angry,” or, “I am sad.” Without realizing it, we are misidentifying that we are the feeling. Often, we believe a feeling is holding on to us. This is not true… we are always in control and just don’t know it.

Now, let the object go.

What happened? You let go of the object, and it dropped to the floor. Was that hard? Of course not. That’s what we mean when we say “let go.”

You can do the same thing with any emotion: choose to let it go.

Sticking with this same analogy: If you walked around with your hand open, wouldn’t it be very difficult to hold on to the pen or other object you’re holding? Likewise, when you allow or welcome a feeling, you are opening your consciousness, and this enables the feeling to drop away all by itself—like the clouds passing in the sky or smoke passing up a chimney with the flue open. It is as though you are removing the lid from a pressure cooker.

Now, if you took the same object—a pencil, pen, or pebble—and magnified it large enough, it would appear more and more like empty space. You would be looking into the gaps between the molecules and atoms. When you dive into the very core of a feeling, you will observe a comparable phenomenon: nothing is really there.

As you master the process of releasing, you will discover that even your deepest feelings are just on the surface. At the core you are empty, silent, and at peace—not in the pain and darkness that most of us would assume. In fact, even our most extreme feelings have only as much substance as a soap bubble. And you know what happens when you poke your finger into a soap bubble: it pops. That’s exactly what happens when you dive into the core of a feeling.

Please keep these three analogies in mind as we go through the releasing process together. Releasing will help you to free yourself from all of your unwanted patterns of behavior, thought, and feeling. All that is required from you is being as open as you can be to the process. Releasing will free you to access clearer thinking, yet it is not a thinking process. Although it will help you to access heightened creativity, you don’t need to be particularly creative to be effective at doing it.

You will get the most out of the process of releasing the more you allow yourself to see, hear, and feel it working, rather than by thinking about how and why it works. Lead, as best you can, with your heart, not your head. If you find yourself getting a little stuck in trying to figure it out, you can use the identical process to let go of “wanting to figure it out.” Guaranteed, as you work with this process, you will understand it more fully by having the direct experience of doing it.

So here we go.

Choosing to Let Go

Make yourself comfortable and focus inwardly. Your eyes may be open or closed.

Step 1: Focus on an issue that you would like to feel better about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in this moment. This doesn’t have to be a strong feeling. In fact, you can even check on how you feel about this exercise and what you want to get from it. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to be as fully or as best you can.

This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, rather than being aware of how we actually feel in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything about the way we feel (and, for that matter, about our businesses or our lives) is NOW. You don’t need to wait for a feeling to be strong before you let it go. In fact, if you are feeling numb, flat, blank, cut off, or empty inside, those are feelings that can be let go of just as easily as the more recognizable ones. Simply do the best you can. The more you work with this process, the easier it will be for you to identify what you are feeling.

Step 2: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:

• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?

These questions are merely asking you if it is possible to take this action. “Yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers. You will often let go even if you say “no.” As best you can, answer the question that you choose with a minimum of thought, staying away from second-guessing yourself or getting into an internal debate about the merits of that action or its consequences.

All the questions used in this process are deliberately simple. They are not important in and of themselves but are designed to point you to the experience of letting go, to the experience of stopping holding on. Go on to Step 3 no matter how you answered the first question.

Step 3: No matter which question you started with, ask yourself this simple question: Would I? In other words: Am I willing to let go?

Again, stay away from debate as best you can. Also remember that you are always doing this process for yourself—for the purpose of gaining your own freedom and clarity. It doesn’t matter whether the feeling is justified, long-standing, or right.

If the answer is “no,” or if you are not sure, ask yourself: “Would I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free?”

Even if the answer is still “no,” go on to Step 4.

Step 4: Ask yourself this simpler question: When?

This is an invitation to just let it go NOW. You may find yourself easily letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you can make any time you choose.

Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

You will probably find yourself letting go a little more on each step of the process. The results at first may be quite subtle. Very quickly, if you are persistent, the results will get more and more noticeable. You may find that you have layers of feelings about a particular topic. However, what you let go of is gone for good.

Source

What keeps her holed up at home voluntarily?
You know the answer to that. She got no life left in her.
Dont be stupid. We all got a life to live.
Yeah but she'd be better off dead than live the way it is right now.
What exactly do you think is the problem with her?
I think she got sick of the monotonic events of everyday life. I mean, dont we all at some point? Her epiphany just came a little earlier.
Still, at such a young age, giving up just like that? she got a whole lot going ahead of her.
Uh-uh. I think she knows that. but not everyone can afford an optimistic outlook.
You suppose its genetically determined- the way she turned out? Like, doesnt her father have the same substance addictive tendencies?
Yeah. even until now. with the cigs, the alcohol, the pills and dope. He cant let it go.
So that explains what's going on with her. Only, it is addiction of a different substance.
Maybe. But I think its partly her own doing. She did, and still does, have a choice you know.
Yeah but havent you ever heard of a genetic predisposition that no matter how hard you try to fight back, you just cant control the urge?
That is possible. Something like the biological explanation for homosexual tendencies? yeah it could be just that.
There. you cant go on blaming her.
But the thing is, she blames herself. and now that she cant do anything about it, she just hides at home.
Do you realize how hard it was to get her to go out for a while? even just to go to church, then have lunch out after?
No. yet i understand that there are some days when you just dont want to be seen by anybody.
Yeah, but with her, its been 3 months of hiding.
Agoraphobic perhaps?
Nah, that's just a consequence of the real problem. She became afraid to go out and be seen by people, even just strangers, as a result of her problem.
Will she ever get better?
Not anytime soon..she still has those monsters in her head, making her do things she tries so hard to resist. and she believes she's only got herself to blame. Everyday, the voices scream at her unceasingly. commanding her. pestering her. until she cant take it anymore. until she gives in. And when its over, she musters up all her strength and mental reasoning to resolve not to ever do it again. But the voices...they come back. They haunt her, wont let her go. They drag her back down once she's taken a few steps up. I think she's given up trying to control them.
But I understand she still wants to control them right? I mean, she couldnt possibly..
Yes. but the line between control and apathy is thinning as it goes on.
So what's she gonna do now?
I dont know. we'll see.
Yeah we'll just have to see.